Gordon offers these tips to parents concerned about anxiety and depression in their children:
- Watch for signs of children tuning out or not wanting to engage in family activities.
- Ask open-ended questions to engage your child in conversation such as “How are you doing?”
- Address the behavior you see. For example: “You seem anxious to me. Did something upset you? Can you tell me about it?”
- Contact your pediatrician or school counselor if you’re concerned.
“I always tell parents to listen more than talk,” Gordon said. “Enable a child or teenager to share their feelings and let them know that it is okay to feel upset. Expressing feelings is a way to help them process something that may be troubling them and can ward off depression in the long-term.”
Eating disorders also are being diagnosed more frequently during the pandemic, often occurring as a manifestation of stress and anxiety.
“An eating disorder can be a sign of an adolescent trying to regain control by restricting what they will and will not eat,” Gordon said.
Signs of an eating disorder may include:
- Skipping meals
- Refusing to eat certain types of foods
- New restrictions on specific foods
- Talking frequently about eating but only picking at a meal
- Consuming caffeinated beverages to try to suppress appetite
- Compulsive exercise, especially after meals
“If your adolescent is not finishing his or her meals, gently ask about it,” Gordon said. “Monitor whether school lunches are being eaten from a lunch box and whether meals or snacks are being thrown away. It is important to approach the adolescent with concern rather than in a punitive way. An adolescent is more likely to open up when a parent is supportive.”
The care of eating disorders requires a multidisciplinary approach, including a physician or nurse practitioner trained in eating disorders (often adolescent medicine), a dietician and a mental health professional. According to Gordon, the treatment of an eating disorder is not a “quick fix” and typically requires months of multidisciplinary care. Eating disorders, especially anorexia nervosa, often are a disease of denial and can be difficult to diagnose in the early stages.
“If a parent begins to worry, it is a good idea to run concerns by the child’s primary care provider for guidance,” Gordon said. “A delayed diagnosis can lead to a more severe presentation once uncovered and even the need for hospitalization. An early diagnosis can lead to the adolescent being managed in the outpatient setting and more quickly getting on the road to recovery.”